Dating a divorced man with young kids
I am not an apologist for the cultural norms that have stacked the deck against those of us who are trying to elevate the discussion about it all.And I think our culture’s focus on youth is way off base.And in that model they’ve probably had kids, and are generally within 5 years of my age, on either side. Who pays, who is the predator, and who’s demanding sex?My one girlfriend since divorce was a couple years older. I agree with many of the things you say are wrong between the relationships between men and women.To be the man of her dreams, you can't create drama and you must want kids. Show her you can bring strength, stability and love to her life.
Money might also be tight for her, so offer to pay the sitter and definitely spring for all the other date expenses.
(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.
Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.
And nothing against the non-parents in the group, but I’m so wrapped up with my kids, that if you don’t have that same passion and joy, we’re probably going to have to look for things to have engaging conversations about. I think that initial attraction is something that we can’t really control or completely predict, but I also don’t think we can do without it. But as we begin navigating our time together we’ve got to be able to talk about whatever we’re feeling.
If you have kids, we’ve got an immediate starting point for everything. Let’s Be Clear About This Games of any kind are an immediate time out. I have created a dog metaphor to help me explain what I’m talking about. The beauty of that is feelings include the ability to fully love.